An unusual No-Body’s Dance + interview in France

7 June 2022

Dear ones,

Last Friday we had a No-Body’s Dance event, for the first time in the evening, for the first time with Daivika. Daivika is life changing inspiration to me and when she first suggested I could do a No-Body’s Dance event as a pre-programme of a weekend with her, I only … contracted. But then my inner coach said: come on, let’s not avoid, overcome your thinking that you are too small … You know that chat.

So, beloved Cicera organized the event. Preparing, I was thinking: they will all have had a long day, they have an upcoming intensive weekend. I shouldn’t bother them too much. Let’s skip the awaken-the-body-part, let’s skip the circle of saying something, let’s skip me asking questions when they come up … let’s keep it very pure. Let them glide into being a nobody and witness the movement, witness what happens when they don’t decide to move, nor not to. 

Somehow, selecting the music for the playlist, I also felt it could only be soft music. Selecting the music for a No-Body’s Dance event is a No-Body’s Dance in its own right: it’s not me, Zoë, selecting, it is selection happening. I find it very amusing to witness.

So, there we were. A beautiful group of people at the end of a long day. I did do some breathing practice and I did say a few words in the beginning – also freshly inspired by a non-duality seminar I had just attended in France – and then let them go their way. All I did was hover around, going from one to another and interacting with them in an intuitive way. And I was noticing: hum … they are all staying in their own bubble, eyes closed, down on the floor and hardly using the space. While I always say that the result of a NoBody’s Dance is that people feel SO connected to each other, here they were not connecting to each other at all. I was afraid I was doing something totally wrong. 

So, afterwards, a few kind people said something nice, and Daivika said it was perfect, but I didn’t feel fulfilled. It couldn’t have been different, and No-Body’s Dance by definition has no standard recipe, but still … I like to see that hearts have opened at the end of an event.

Now, a few days later, also with feedback of Daivika. I can feel gratitude again. This No-Body’s Dance was also perfect because it was a … NoBody’s Dance. Nothing conceptualized. Life happening at that moment as it was. I only read beautiful feedback of Daivika (I will probably publish more on the website) but one line I especially liked: “Even though there wasn’t that much connection between us all, I felt everyone was connected to the universal energy in a very strong way. The atmosphere in the room was magical, the whole universe within reach.” 

Truly, I felt that too. But it was so subtle that I didn’t know whether other people would feel it that way.

That said: next Sunday there is another No-Body’s Dance event in Nazareth (Gent). I can already tell that the music that is being selected is not only calm. And I will not think that participants already had a long day and that I shouldn’t bother them too much …. I am curious to see how life will happen through our No-Bodies this time.

The seminar in France I attended was one with Eric Baret. I went there to make an interview with him on Jean Klein – a famous non-duality teacher of the twentieth century (for those who don’t know yet: I recently became an editorial member of the Dutch magazine InZicht.). I am sharing this as a preview. You might still see two or three question marks in the translation. I am waiting for my French friends to help me out. If you are an expert (In Indian names) and know what I missed: you are very welcome to send me your feedback.

I would love to see you next Sunday in Nazareth for another unusual No-Body’s Dance event. Let me know if you are coming by replying to this letter or by sending a message to our host Ludo. We will answer to you with the details.

Much much love,


From Rome to Nazareth

18 April 2022

Dear friend,

Yesterday, I came back from Rome. Breathtakingly beautiful Rome. Ah, that light, these palazzos, these colors, these narrow streets, these green parks, … and that favorite language of mine.

This time I wasn’t in search of female Sufis, but love and beauty are of course always on my mind (or rather, in my heart). And the sacred feminine life force keeps manifesting on my path. Amazingly.

Somehow, when walking in one of these small, cozy streets (Via Celsa), my eye fell upon a small announcement: Sacred Dance course with Ganga Devi. Women only.

So, of course, the next day I was there …

What Ganga Devi offers is called Odissi: Indian sacred dancing, traditionally practiced in the temples for healing. She invited us to write a poem about our essence. Then Ganga showed us how to dance this poem, with (hand) gestures illustrating the meaning of the words we had written. I loved her grace, her caring, and her authenticity. As in every sacred practice it was about remembering of, and reconnecting to, the higher frequency that we are (that we suppress too often), while connecting also to each other.

This is also what happens in a No-Body’s Dance event, in a very powerful way. It’s energy work in the first place. It’s much less literally dancing than what I did with Ganga. It’s mostly about remembering what we truly are, and raising the frequency in which we live. At the risk of causing spontaneous dancing …

What inspired and touched me in the sacred dancing course with Ganga is that she sticks to her very own authentic call. She recently moved to Rome from California (her partner is Roman) and doesn’t speak Italian yet. So, she has to address English speaking people (not many among the Romans!) who are open for a ‘strange’ course in which you have to write and do sacred dancing. Not easy. I really hope more people wil find their way to Ganga. Her work is truly worth it.

So, why would we want to lift our frequency? Because it is reconnecting us with our most beautiful and loving self. It helps us enhance our intuition and inspiration, find our own call, own our space in this life, and become clear about the next step to take.

The next group event of No-Body’s Dance is 8 May in Nazareth (close to Ghent). Both men and women are welcome. Still a few places left. Find more information on the website. To register you can also simply reply to this email.

Is this for you? Just FEEL if you want to be there. Your heart knows better than your mind. You are anyhow very welcome.

Much, much love,

Am I a Sufi?

10 March 2022

Dearest reader,

Last week I was in Brittany in France in a precious and small (but expanding!) Sufi oriented community/retreat center. Aya (the founding mother of this place) and much younger Nura (cooking, singing and massaging purity incarnate) welcomed me to a bath of love in a beautiful place in nature.

On my way back in the train, I felt fulfilled and grateful for this blessed life. 

I expected that this would be the effect of spending time in a Sufi house, and yet things happened differently than I had had in mind. I hadn’t realized beforehand that I was so much in need of care! 

It is easy to stage my life as the one I always wanted to have and many think of as the dream. I have a part time job that I love and that provides me with a basic income, and I have time to travel and write. I am that multilingual investigating traveling woman I would want to be if I wasn’t already. While sitting in the train on the way to Brittany, I was finishing one of the articles on my Turkey travel that will be published in Dutch magazines in springtime. The next day I was chanting and whirling on a Sufi celebration day. That’s the life for me. Or rather … that’s the picture of ‘the life’ for me …

The days after the Sufi celebration day, when there was less of a programme and more time to feel, rest, be fed, and sleep, I felt like I had an extended hangover. I had headaches most of the time, my belly was swollen, and I simply felt very tired. Not a very juicy woman in the bath of love provided! I even felt a bit worried – what is wrong with me? – and at the same time, or rather after some time, I realized: this is what happens when I am taken care of. I feel how much I need it. I asked for a session with Aya, and much in the way of when people come to me for sessions, I could leave behind (scream out) some stress memory. At the end of the session, I felt so touched to be with a big sister, generously giving me all her undivided attention and unconditional love. I felt connected, to her, to myself, to Love itself.

‘The life’ is not so much about what we do. It is all about feeling connected. Asking and receiving care is one way to connect. For some, definitely for me, asking and receiving care is a very soothing and healing way to connect. 

The last day of my stay with Aya and Nura, I felt juicy energy coming back, dancing energy, energy saying: what shall we do today? I was recharged. And I felt connected.

Thank you Aya and Nura!


Am I a Sufi?

In Sufism, the only true reality is Love. For me too.
In Sufism, one doesn’t want to find definite answers but rather keeps on questioning. That is me.
In Sufism, one focuses on seeing and creating beauty. It’s my aspiration too. 
In Sufism, that ultimate reality, Love, is celebrated in dancing and poetry, in togetherness. I say yes to that.
A Sufi strives to live in the light of the present moment. It is my practice.

And Sufis just got style. The colours, the language, the music … 

And yet … 

Living life in the light of the present moment is about not confining oneself to a definition and embracing uncertainty (there no such thing as certainty anyhow). For me this poetic feeling of oneness becomes tangible when I don’t try to define, when I am in in-between space. When I let life flow through me in the present moment. When my life becomes a No-Body’s Dance.

Am I a Sufi? Everything I am saying here sounds very much like Sufism.

There is no need to answer the question. I love the question.

To talk about your question and receive your care and healing in the energy field of love, book your session with me by responding to this email or by just calling me +32 475523883.

You are very welcome!

Much love, from my heart to yours,

P.S. The Sufi retreat center/community of Aya is called Le Moulin Des Hirondelles. Check my Facebook or ask me if you can’t find it.

It’s the Poet

25 January 2022

Dearest all,

I am not writing this love letter from a tiny rooftop hotel room in Istanbul, as I had vaguely pictured before I left for Turkey. I am simply writing from home, ten days after I returned. Universe has its own timing, and I do not always understand it, but I so much like to surrender to it. It’s probably part of my credo.

In Istanbul (and before in Konya, in Cappadocia, and in the Taurus Mountains) I was probably too much part of my stories to also write about them in a small format as this love letter. I shared some fragments on Facebook and Instagram. In this letter I want to take it a step further than the picture level.

The way I travel is no instant gratification. I often don’t know why I am walking where I am walking, I often get totally lost, and in general the magic isn’t waiting around the corner. But it also feels natural to me. I love to wander for the sake of wandering. I love the undefined. It’s the path I need to walk. It’s the dance for me to dance. Following that call is probably also part of my credo. 

Getting lost on my way is perhaps the humble payment I offer for what I get in return. Maybe life and I have a deal there. I often think life must love me. Honestly. 

I am amazed by the poetry
but it’s
the Poet I am in love with

Divine interventions provided me with amazing moments and life changing meetings. Incredibly beautiful souls have crossed my path. I had conversations with wise men about the divine, and I fell in love a hundred times with the eyes of women who gave me their smiles in the streets. Absolute poetry. 

And still, this is the picture level. Stories to tell.

Beautiful as they are, these moments and meetings – in a breathtaking historical and intercultural background! –  are but a reflection of what is creating these moments and meetings. They are the poetry of the Poet. 

I am amazed by the poetry, but it’s the Poet I am in love with.

I also like to call this Poet, Love. Or Life. Or Oneness. Or interconnectedness of all things. My friends in Turkey call it Allah. (Especially in Sufism, Allah is non-dogmatic and undefined, and Love above all).

I love poetry, I love stories, I cultivate stories, but there is a greater truth. I always want to realize that …

Our stories are merely the constantly changing reflections of the never changing Oneness.

Constant awareness of that invisible and intangible Oneness is my truest goal and fulfilment. Oneness is carrying me when I walk around without knowing where I am. Oneness makes me never feel lonely or scared when I travel alone. Oneness makes me feel love, also when I get lost. It’s the meaning of my life. Oneness IS LOVE. It is the start and the end of my credo. 

It’s very simple for me. When I am in touch with this Oneness, I am happy. When I am not in touch with it, I am unhappy. So, when I am unhappy, I know I have lost it. I also know where to go and find it back. Not in the pictures …

Be drunk with love,
for Love is all that exists.


Lines of Rumi can be read for the story (picture level), some use it to refer to romantic love, but all his writings really only point towards Love of the divine. His words invite you to seek the level of Oneness, because it is the only truth.

Oneness is also receiving you in the field of a No-body’s Dance session. In a session we always, whether we name it or not, work on what is keeping us from experiencing Oneness, that Love for everything. After a session we have always come closer to who we truly are in the field of Oneness. 

Book your moment in the field of Oneness with me by simply replying to this email or by sending a message through my website. 

Much much love,

I can’t elaborate much on Sufism in the scope of this love letter. In the strictest sense, Sufism is Islamic mysticism. Mysticism goes beyond religion by nature, and Sufism, with its sense of beauty and love, attracts people from many different religious affiliations, and from none at all. In its broadest sense, Sufism is simply an orientation towards Love. Interested speakers of Dutch can google to find my master thesis in which I have compared Rumi to Ruusbroec (a Brabantic medieval mystic). Add ‘Ugent’ in your search. 

A very first No-Body’s Dance Love Letter!

15 December 2021

You are receiving this letter because you subscribed to the mailing list on my website, or because you are a friend whom I added myself. In any case, feel free to unsubscribe if you no longer wish to receive my letters. And no, I don’t intend to write to you that often. I intend to write to you on a very irregular basis, not because my calendar tells me, not for marketing reasons. Just from my heart to your heart, just when … it happens.

It happens. 

As a non-judging witness, it is maybe all we can say about what happens in the world and in our lives: it happens. The more we can let go of judging and identifying with what happens, the more LIFE itself starts flowing through our personal lives. The more our life becomes a dance.

This is what the No-Body’s Dance sessions are about. In a session I let go of my own ‘self’ and my body captures information about the receiver in the energy field. We then work with this information. I am always amazed to witness how easily and unexpectedly this information comes in, to hear how matching, revealing and healing it is. 


In this very first love letter, I want to tell you something about the notion of SHAKTI. 

Shakti is the sacred feminine life force and she comes in many faces. She is the primal life force of all existence and she is also embodied by all the main goddesses of the Hindu pantheon. She actually IS embodiment herself. WIthout her life force there wouldn’t be any forms of life. There would only be consciousness. She is the devoted and unconditional love of a housewife and the uncompromising determination of a female solo traveler. She is beauty and creativity. She is not afraid to love and not afraid to fight. She is many things, but always, she is passionate and powerful. As a woman, I like to call upon Shakti to empower me. Sometimes I call for Shakti love, sometimes I ask to be a Shakti warrior. 

Shakti: sacred feminine life-force

As a woman you can unveil and cultivate Shakti energy. As a man you can do that too – of course you can. Whether man or woman, we all consist of precious male and female energy. On top of that, as a man, you can choose to honor and support Shakti in the women you meet with. You will be surprised to find out how rewarding that is!

A Nobody’s Dance session could be about what stands in the way of allowing Shakti – sacred feminine life force – to flow IN you, and to flow TO you.

This is what I wanted to inspire you with in this very first No-Body’s Dance Love letter. At the end of the month, I will be traveling to Turkey, in search of snowy mountains and female Sufis. Maybe it will inspire me to write another love letter to you. 

I will be back from mid-January for sessions. You can book yours through the website or by just calling me +32/(0)4755238. You are of course very welcome to forward this letter to friends who could feel inspired by the content of this letter.

I send you my Shakti love!